The ALOHA Reboot
Aloha means hello — a hello to your inner self. Seven minutes, five moves.
A — Acknowledge what you’re carrying. Before you fix anything, name it. The quarter was brutal. The reorg cost something. Say it to yourself first. Naming creates distance, and distance gives you room to think. “Distance creates a little buffer between me and the situation,” Savio says. You can’t recalibrate what you won’t admit has shifted.
L — Listen for the feeling, not the situation. When you or someone on your team freezes on “I’ve never dealt with this before,” reach past the situation to the feeling underneath it. “Track back to a time in your life,” he says, “not when you’ve experienced the same situation, but when you’ve experienced the same feeling. How did you resource that?” The situation is new. The feeling rarely is — and that’s where your resourcefulness already lives.
O — Open to the hard thing instead of bracing against it. The instinct after disruption is to resist whatever’s been imposed — the new system, the restructure, the pace. Opening means reframing it. Savio did this in the extreme, choosing to see his chemo “not as poison, but as an elixir.” His challenge to leaders who tell him the work is soul-sucking: “Why can’t it be soul searching?” What you resist runs you. What you reframe, you can work with.
H — Harness what you need, out loud. Recovery runs on fuel, and most leaders never ask for it. We build a facade of having every answer, then wonder why we’re empty. Name the support you need, and ask your team for theirs. “If we don’t tell people our needs,” he says, “they’re not going to figure it out for themselves.”
A — Act small. Insight is the easy part. Acting is where the gap begins to close — and it doesn’t take much. The whole practice is seven minutes. When one executive told Savio he didn’t have seven, Savio shrank it: one minute a day, five days. “It’s not that people don’t want to change,” he says. “They just don’t have the tools.” Start with the minute you have.